Gender Wars

Feb21

Posted at 10:30 PM • 6 Comments

Note – This is actually a blog I wrote last year for the Australian Penthouse website, but since I’m blogging on my own site now I thought I’d repost it here.

Gender Wars

Okay… not wars, exactly. Just interesting differences.

The idea for this blog was sparked by a rather entertaining conversation I had with my workmate Lauren last week. For those of you who don’t follow my online exploits and don’t know what I do to occupy my days, I work in the office for an adult entertainment agency. It is my job to manage the male stripper half of the business, whilst Lauren manages the girls. The other day we were looking over both booking folders and saying how it’s funny how so many women book literally 6-8 months in advance, yet guys tend to leave it to the last minute. However, nine times out of ten guys will spend at least double what the girls will – it is extremely rare that girls at a hen’s night will ever book more than one male stripper, but it’s common for guys organising a buck’s night to get three topless waitresses and multiple strip shows ranging from mild to very, very wild. Lauren questioned why this is, and I think the answer is quite simple….

Girls don’t like looking at guys as much as guys like looking at girls.

Sure, I can look at a guy and appreciate him for having a pleasing physical appearance, but does it turn me on? Not exactly. I’ve had this conversation with many girlfriends over the years, and not one of us has ever said they’d even consider masturbating to pictures of naked men. Penises just don’t do it for us. Don’t get me wrong, I love dick, but for me it’s got a lot more to do with who it’s attached to than the actual organ itself. If someone tried to start a magazine for women containing pictures of naked men, I think the only people who would buy it would be gay guys. While it’s entirely commonplace for guys to jerk off while looking at a picture of some faceless, anonymous vagina, I can honestly admit that I have never once in my life felt even slightly aroused after looking at a picture of a penis.

Continuing our conversation, I made note of the differences in the types of shows we offer. A popular show on our list for the female strippers is the “Masturbation Show” where the girl strips naked and touches herself til she fakes (?) an orgasm, because let’s be honest, guys like watching chicks get off. But let’s reverse that, and consider a male masturbation show. If we were to add this to our list of services, I would be prepared to bet a very large sum of money that it would NEVER get booked because I don’t know a single girl who wants to sit in a group with her girlfriends and cheer while watching a tanned, muscular stranger rub one out. On a similar note, the female dildo shows are extremely popular, but if we offered a comparable male service we’d have a guy standing there fucking a Fleshlight, and, yeah, well… you get the point.

I find it interesting how men and women can be such different creatures. As humans it is natural for us to be sexual beings, yet the way we feel and express it can be absolutely nothing alike. It’s a crazy world we live in.

Love, Ashlee Adams

xox

Tags: gender, sex, sexuality

6 Responses

Hmmm. I’d disagree with some of this.

I’m a woman who’s been to male and female strip clubs. I think the difference is largely due to culturally enforced ideas. Men are usually the pursuers in a sexual situation, and females usually the gatekeepers. It felt really strange to pay for a lapdance from a guy, but I had no such qualms paying a female stripper. In fact, my friends and I brought each other’s dances to make it feel less weird.

And male and female strippers interact with people differently. I find females are flirty, but still a little guarded. But male strippers have to be flirty, but not intrusive but still convince women to pay up.

And I like looking at guys… Everyone’s so different with what gets them off. I look at all types of porn, I have a straight female friend who only watches gay male porn because she’s so into guys, and another straight female friend that only reads lesbian erotica because she finds other porn to be too male centred. It’s too hard to make generalisations like that.

✭ Tess on February 21, 2010 at 11:20 pm.
Haha, Yeah me and my girlfriends have had this conversation too.
It’s also funny that guys think that we get turned on by photos of their dicks.
So many times in the past I’ve been seing someone and they wanted to send a photo of their dick and it actually turned me off that they would think that would get me hot..

✭ Kim on February 22, 2010 at 1:10 am.
Ashlee, I’d agree with most of your points, though I rarely spank it looking at just a vagina. I know as a guy I love to see a chick get off. I know it’s why I watch porn, always prefering seeing a woman who’s truly into the scene, rather than one who just yells a lot of crap, faking it. Admitedly, it might be hard to tell, but I think you know what I mean. It’s also interesting to me that so many porn actresses have girlfriends on the side. They’re getting presumably the best dick on the planet, yet they are drawn sexually to other women. It is a crazy world indeed.

✭ FuzzyWuzzE on February 22, 2010 at 4:08 am.
Most women see men as other people. They think of the whole person. Most men look at women, strangers at least, as a collection of body parts.

✭ Roy Frederick on February 22, 2010 at 9:05 am.
everybody is diffrent it would be an interesting convertaion to have but in the end everybody has there own way of doing things it all works out

✭ steven on February 22, 2010 at 9:25 am.
agreed 100% there ashlee

✭ Liam on February 25, 2010 at 10:42 pm.

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